It’s okay. Just so you know: We start off on a positive note… I have escaped and am no longer hi-jacked. Phewww! It  took six weeks off social media activity—having none whatsoever. This was super intimidating—especially because I do love using social media to spread my message.

I was scared! It was like shutting down a part of myself. But, the scariest part of this story is the realization that I wasn’t aware that my life had been hi-jacked.

The cause of the hi-jacking of my life was simple. I was someone that naively used social media like everyone else out there. I would create posting and blogs, add quotes and pictures of my travels, inspiration and life on Instagram and Facebook. I would glance down at my phone and be checking all the different types of social media feeds whilst walking somewhere, waiting for my number to be called, having a coffee in a café, or relaxing on my couch at night. I even had one of those not-so-proud moments. I realised that checking on social media was the first and last thing I did during my day.

I suppose I never really thought about it. This was normal behaviour. Right? Everyone was doing it: my girlfriend, my mum, the post man, and the other guys in the café. Even my friends’ pets had Facebook accounts!

You see: The thing that got me was that I didn’t realize how often I would, out of absolute habit, just check my social media. My Ego had found a way of plugging me into the world and bringing me out of the present moment. I was allowing my Ego to entertain so many games which kept me from actually being present with myself.

How often do you check social media and start comparing your life to everyone else’s? Theirs always looks rosier because everyone loves to put up only the amazing stuff. This selective sharing brings to mind questions about whether we are really happy with what we have and who we are.

One of the ways I know my Ego survives is by ensuring I am plugged into duality. There’s you and I. Here I am: my identity. Here you are: your identity. We exist with all our stories that make us into the person we believe ourselves to be. Just check out my photo albums from this week, last month, and last year. They should tell you a good story of who I am. Right? Check out what people say about me and how I am received. Check out who I know and who knows me.

I have come to realize that social media is just one huge playground for the Ego. People are just simply expressing themselves in order to be received in some way—to be accepted for who they think they are.

I then look for the signposts which make me feel as though I am doing okay. These include: How many likes did that post get? How many likes did that photo get? How many followers do I have?  What type of comments did I get? Are people actually interested in me?

All this points to one thing: We are all searching for love and acceptance. But this type of love is external. You could say that by using social media from an aspect of Ego then I am looking for love in all the wrong places.

When I take the time to be present with myself and actually sit with who I am and what I am experiencing right now, I give myself the opportunity to avoid getting distracted from the real stuff–the stuff that makes you and me special and great.

I found that, by not going to check my social media feeds, I was so much more present in my day. I noticed things about myself I hadn’t before. I would find ways to entertain distracting thoughts by checking in with the rest of the world.

This stopped me from feeling even deeper into my own experience. It stopped me from reaching deeper into my own soul. It brought out, in a clearer sense, what I would truly love. It was apparent to me: the only person to whom realizing what love is has importance.

I asked myself: If you know who you are, if you truly believe that who you are is limitless and something that can never be defined or limited, an infinite energy, then why do you make it about the outside world and try to define yourself in the world?

I realized it was just another way in which my Ego had distracted me from the truth of who I am and knowing that in each and every moment I have and am everything I could ever need or want. When I know this and spend the time to feel into this space I no longer  care about the Facebook likes or comments. I simply express because it feels true and comes from love itself.

Don’t get me wrong. I believe social media has a place in this world. However, from now on, I’ll be using it rather than letting it use me. Before posting something, I’ll be checking in to ensure it comes from the right space rather than that part of me that’s looking to exist: my Ego.

How often do you fill in the empty space with checking social media? How often do you just sit with the experience you are having—no matter how simple or even maybe boring?

I challenge you to just take a week off social media and see what comes up for you.

Do you ever have feel like the world is literally crushing you? Do you feel as if you are smothering in your very existence? Are you choking as though you’re on your knees and crawling through smoke looking for that exit where you can finally breathe again?

I have had moments like that in my life. All the things I had been chasing, the things I thought would help me breathe ever so easily seemed to turn upside down. My world was standing on its head.

I had it all. I had that job or business that gave me financial freedom and all the things I thought made me great, and stand out as an achiever: the fast cars, the apartment with a view, the large bank balance, celebrity friends, the stunning girlfriend and the perfect lifestyle and all that came with it.

I had put in the hard yards and, yep, I felt more than deserving. I had worked hard! I had climbed the ladder to get where I thought I wanted to be.

Do you know what I am talking about?

I thought I had arrived. My god! It looked that way. But then it all turn backwards and upside down. Life left me standing so weak-kneed. I felt worn down and bruised. I was left wondering who the hell I really was. I asked myself: Is this really the point of my life?

I had arrived at a point. My life seemed as though it was in balance. But, really, it was ever so temporary. What I had was never enough. Then, in a flash, it was taken away by unforeseen circumstances.

Maybe you’ve been there too? A place where you hope to make your next dollars only to pay the debts from a life that was. Hopefully, at the end of the month you have some money left for yourself.

I was alone. I couldn’t believe I had to start all over again.

That is when it hit me.  Did I really want to start this game all over again? Did I really want to keep on chasing in hope to finally arrive?

I knew there was more to me, more to this life I had come to experience. So, without looking to my circumstances and all the limitations I had sold myself on believing, I looked elsewhere.

I quieted my mind and dived into my heart. I embraced all that was there to be felt. I embraced the pain and only then I realized I had a choice. I had a choice to come home and truly find myself.

I made my life not about possessions, the people, my accolades, wins or losses.  I made it all about following a feeling. That feeling felt bigger than any perceived problem or issue. It was something that could never be taken away or identified with.

This feeling gave me great strength and will. It made me feel inspired. It brought purpose to what I did and gave me more meaning than I could ever find in the doing. It brought me back to the moment.

The feeling I am talking about is love. It’s not the love you may immediately think of. This love cannot be defined. It’s a love that has no conditions, no limits, no beginning, and no end. It is a love which is infinite. It is who I am. It is who you are. It is a sense of being where fear does not exist. A place where I had come to play and express that externally. Without attachment or need, just because I feel I love to.

I hope to share this with the world, person by person, so others may know how free they are—and always have been. We are truly free to do whatever we love.

There is no power outside of you. You are everything. There is no separation. Only love.

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Do you remember those moments in life when you felt so alive, so fulfilled, and so happy for no particular reason?? It’s in those moments that I have realized how free we really are when we commit ourselves to that deep sense of connection to who we truly are. When I am connected to that feeling, I am more than anything you could bring me in life, more than any amount of money, more than any amazing place on earth, more than any love I could feel from another.

So in that moment I ask: Where, in my life, do I limit myself because of those finite things we sometimes identify with? Where do I hesitate because of the fear that something in my life may fall apart? How do I fail to follow that feeling of being who I love because of my perceived limitations?

If I can realise fulfillment in those moments because of nothing external, then why would I want to limit that expansive feeling by attempting to identify it with things outside myself: The house I want, the car I drive, the amount of money I have, my partner, or family?

The answer that comes to me is that I can never limit that feeling to anything. In truth I’m only seeking out those things in a search for that feeling.

Recently, I have become more content to appreciate what is, freer to live in the moment, expressing what I love. The more I have followed that feeling which moves through me, the more I have found my life to be unlimited by circumstances. It’s in those moments I feel that I am truly infinite.

I left behind a highly successful career in property. I left behind that business based solely on a feeling. I left behind those tangible things with no plan or understanding of what was next. I had no way of knowing what might happen. Facing those fears and uncertainties about what could happen was one of the most freeing moments of my life.

A few years later, I am more than okay. Not because of my circumstances but because I’m living. I’m living the life I love, doing what I love and following wherever that feeling may take me.

We all have different areas in our life where we have imprisoned ourselves. We all have rationalisations we tell ourselves that stop us from following our heart.  It’s not because of the story. It’s more about the power we have placed in those circumstances which keep us feeling trapped and stuck where we are, knowing it’s not where we want to be in life.

How often in life do you follow your feelings? How often do you notice that feeling you would love to follow and then, a moment later, limit it based on your circumstances?

My usual response when things in my life are not going quite right is to immediately look for a solution, fix the problem, and move on. The funny thing is: I would fix one area of my life and then another area would surface with a new issue.  I realized this was something we all do. We all look to the circumstances and try to find the best logical solution so we can make sense of what’s not right. The result is that we feel safe.

I discovered that this was one very tiring way of living. It felt like I was on one  of those treadmills in a hamster cage. I felt like I was playing a game with myself thinking that I would someday arrive at a balance. But, it was a balance only in everything external. It really did not fulfill a need. The fix was only temporary.

Don’t get me wrong. Balance is important in life. But, I know I’m not here merely to find balance in my life—especially when it’s a balance in things external. It’s never really  safe as it can be taken away.

So what was I really looking for? I realized I was searching for a feeling. I wanted the feeling of security. I wanted to feel safe and know that everything would be okay.

In realizing it was a feeling I was searching for, I started to become aware of how situations, and circumstances made me feel. At first, this was a little overwhelming. It felt like I had smashed down the wall of this massive dam. This huge surge of emotions gushed forth. I realized that, for all my life up until this moment, I had been surviving in my head, through my thinking. All I had really done was shut down and suppress my emotions.

Instead, I allowed myself to continue to express and feel what was coming up. As I did this, I started to notice how my reaction to things in my story, or my day-to-day experiences, really started to shift. People that would usually stir me or push my buttons no longer did. In fact, they seemed to disappear. Relationships I valued started to go much deeper and open up. I started to be so much more present with what I was doing and who I was being.

The biggest thing of all is that I started to feel secure and safe for no reason at all. As I got to know myself on a deeper level and allow myself to feel connected to this present moment, I felt certainty in the uncertain. No matter what was happening in my life or story, I had found something that felt bigger than any perceived problem. That something was my true self, my infinite self that is connected to all things. I noticed that, as my feeling became able to sense this connection with all things, I stopped feeling so separated from life. I realized it was all me. I was simply creating the experience I was having from either love of fear.

Now if something comes up in my life, I never look to resolve the circumstances. I know that the story—no matter what it is—if it evokes an emotion, was something I manifested to express those emotions. I first connect to my heart, check in with my true self, and follow the feelings that arise. It’s the feeling that has become more real than anything I can see, hear, touch, smell or taste. That sense of who I am is one energy moving through all things.

So today I ask you: Where in your life have you just been reacting rather than allowing yourself to feel?

All the way from sunny LA! In this vlog I discuss what it has been like to follow what I love over my circumstances, over my logical thinking and how that has played out. Enjoy!

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I’ve always loved watching movies. Through the magic of cinematography, I am transported into the adventure, action, romance, and thrill of a great story. What makes it so good is the skill of the actors that play those roles. When performed by outstanding actors the characters have the ability to draw you in and take you along for the ride.

There are so many great movies that I love. But, there is one movie in particular that really can never be bested by others which I have seen on a screen. That movie? My own life movie! It doesn’t get more real than this.

My life movie is filled with all the emotions and traits of the greatest movies I’ve ever watched. What makes it better than the best that commercial theatre has to offer is that it is real.

Or is it??

As author Margery Williams noted in the children’s classic, The Velveteen Rabbit: What is real?

I started to ponder  this questions a couple of years ago. It led me down the path of starting to understand and observe myself like never before. I started to notice the role or roles I was playing. I had sold myself on the character I was and the traits of that character.  I had bought into societal expectations of the role I had chosen to play.

To truly understand who I was in my own life movie, I had to first see the role I was playing. This meant becoming extremely vulnerable and open.

Great actors will study the roles of the characters they are to play. They will profile the character and take on all of his traits—so much so they will lose themselves in that character’s personality and motivation to play the perfect role.

I came to realize that this was exactly I had done to my own life. In trying to be perfect at the role I thought I was expected to play, I lost the essence of myself in the character I was playing in my life movie.

I was consumed by the story of my character. What made this story real were my past and the ideas I had projected into the future.

I gave other people roles to play in my life movie. Their participation made my life movie seem even more real. My mind was consumed by the experiences I had and the ones I hoped to have.

My emotions added to my perfect role. They were in the grip of each scene. I was so wrapped up in role playing that I forgot that there was nothing beyond each moment.

You see, the amazing thing about actors, I came to realize, is that they play these incredible characters. Their characters have the most insurmountable problems. They suffer. They feel pain. They laugh. They cry. They love… But, regardless of the characters’ circumstances, at the end of filming for that day these professionals remember who they truly are. In that moment, they are freed from their roles. All the traits of the characters they play no longer matter. They are free to be themselves—until shooting resumes the next day. Those that cannot shed this role and its accompanying traits like a second skin, often experience personal and social problems. Literally, they don’t know who they truly are.

I share this with you because I came to realize that we all have choices. I’ll even go as far to say that we even have free will. My problem was that I was never using it. I was consumed by the character I thought I was and that I was convinced others expected me to be.

I never stopped in the moment to bring awareness to who I truly was. I couldn’t because my story, my problems, my circumstances, my needs, and my agendas for all that I desired got in the way.

So, I decided to start taking an observer position in this move of mine called life. I decided to look upon it from the perspective of a director. It wasn’t easy! I’m still practicing. I had to work at remembering that my true identity is not that which I think it is—or that I think others expect. It’s anything I feel it to be once I remember who I truly am…

How consumed are you by your story? Have you, too, bought into the character you have sold yourself on being? Have you let others’ expectations decree who you will be? Have the needs and agendas of your character got in the way?

I believe you are free to do what you love in life. I believe you came here to be your authentic self. You owe it to yourself to live each moment from the heart. This means nothing if you can’t become aware of who you truly are.

Your ego has spent years building and investing in the perfect role you are now playing but it is not who you are. So, don’t be surprised if those emotions that keep us glued to the screen arise in your own life as you begin to pull back the cover and realize the ultimate truth of who you really are.

Maybe, just maybe, who you are is not just the character you play but a compilation of every other character you see and all that is. Maybe it is you in another that is playing a role you scripted. Maybe you are much bigger than this body. Possibly you are even as infinite as the energy that comprises all things. Even consider that One energy is who you are…

So if you are the One energy that is all things, what would you then love to do? To create your life movie, moment by moment? That’s pretty powerful if you ask me! But hey you are infinite, right?

If you had a moment to stop and ask the questions:

“What role would I love to play?”

What would your answer be? Then going one step further ask… Why would I write a script that limits me from doing what I love if I am free to chose? If you truly are Infinite…

A short vlog on what true acceptance is about, enjoy!

Do you ever notice the exact moment when you get distracted? Before you know it, you’re being entertained and following your thoughts without even being aware of it!

When I start to entertain my thoughts, I seem to get very distracted from the here and now, the present moment. I feel as though my power is placed outside of myself.

Usually, the story has not even unfolded yet. It’s only the noise in my head from all the thinking of possible scenarios and outcomes that take up space. I then find that, in some way or another, my actions or sometimes my lack of actions lead to my creating the very experience that I am visualizing. This becomes habit. I find myself on a merry-go-round, controlled by external forces and circumstances, leaving me feeling powerless and at the mercy of hope in the story of my life.

This may happen for you in many different areas. For me, it occurs most often in finances. I was always distracted by bills and upcoming expenses. The thoughts revolved around: How will I pay for things? Will I have enough money left? Will I run out?

Ultimately, these worries served as such a distraction that they played into my identity by giving me purpose. Seriously, if I wasn’t making sure all this happened and that I was creating my wealth, security, and lifestyle then who would do it? A little voice hounded me asking those questions. I worked hard, and got the job done. This brought in the money so I could live another day. I was distracted by concerns about what would happen if I wasn’t managing and manipulating scenarios and outcomes to ensure all this stuck together.

As you can see, that voice was very loud and made sure I was very distracted. You might ask, though, from what, exactly, was I distracted?

Where are you when all these voices are occurring?? The answer for me was: In my head. When I was in my head I was doing things out of fear. I was driven by my ego which needed to survive and exist in my thoughts and reality. I was distracted from following my heart, following my truth.

By simply ignoring the voices, the distractions, I found that I would then be able to feel. I would be able to connect and be present with the here and now and express from my heart. In doing so, I became bigger than that voice, bigger than the distractions. Sometimes it’s not the voices you notice at first. Sometimes it’s the action you take such as: eating food, sitting on the couch, being really, really busy.

When you notice the actions you will start to notice the voice driving these actions. This awareness will give you the opportunity to dispel those voices, those  distractions and be in the moment.

I now take time each day to bring myself into the present, the here, the now. I take time to connect and ground myself with where I am so that I may follow my intuition, the voice of truth that speaks from heart.

It’s not something that happens over night but, by bringing awareness to this distraction, gradually the loud voice in my head seems to subside. My life seems to reflect more of what I love because I am taking time to connect to my heart, my true self, so that instead of the distractions, my true self may be expressed in my reality.

How often do you stop and connect? Are you aware of what distracts you from the present moment?

Feel free to share this with others you know that also do a great job of being distracted, enjoy!

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So many times, I have started to make a decision but been stuck in indecision because I wasn’t sure how to follow my truth. Today I have come to realize why it was I was stuck in that place.

Sometimes, I have an idea of how life should look—according to my beliefs. The idea of who I am. This is my identity or ego. I make decisions from beliefs that are not in the here and now, the present moment. When I notice this I realize I am making a decision out of ego. I know this because the decision is based on a past or future experience.

I realised this when I listened to someone today tell me he had been diagnosed with a tumor about twelve months ago. He was supposed to have it removed six months ago. He hadn’t decided yet how he would go about dealing with removing it. He didn’t want to have a doctor operate on him. For the past fifty years, he had been learning and discovering his true potential as a spiritual and conscious being. He believed that we should be able to cure ourselves of any disease because, in truth, it’s just energy and not real. This is what he believed. He didn’t want to have someone have to remove the tumor because he felt that was not solving his real issue that created the tumor. So this person had a judgement regarding how this tumor should be dealt with in the here and now. He wasn’t afraid of dying. But, he had been battling the indecision of whether to have it removed by a doctor or just to leave it and deal with it naturally. This person believed he could heal himself.

Here’s what I saw. It may be true that we can heal ourselves but he was dealing with two conflicting beliefs. Both were part of his past experience. To make a true decision you must be able to accept all scenarios and then follow your feeling of what is true in the moment. There is not much thinking involved. Feeling and sensing should be a big part of your decision making process.  It should become a wholehearted action. The more you play into indecision, the harder it will be for the result of your decision to manifest.

For me it has been so important to have awareness when I’m thinking too much about a decision. Whenever I make a decision through what I am feeling, things seem to happen more effortlessly. There seems to be a more natural flow. Everything seems to come together to support that decision.

Peeling away beliefs that control or limit me, following my feelings in the present moment, has been key to truly knowing myself.

I can over complicate decision making because I have been so use to logically working things out. True and wholehearted decisions should come from feeling, intuition, your gut. There is no place for logic when making a decision in that space although my logical mind will always find reason why I didn’t or did follow the feeling.

How often do you follow your gut feeling or are you letting your logic use you through the decisions you make?